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As an Indian or African, you don’t need to be introduced to this name. Gandhi is not a mere name, he is a legend. He was more than a freedom fighter, he was an inspiration. Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was a man of great stature.

But I’m not talking about the same Gandhi here. Undoubtly he was powerful by his own means and principles but there is yet another Gandhi who is more powerful than ever. Powerful than the previous one. More influencial than him. People love the new Gandhi more than they love him. He is what people want today. He is the Gandhi on Indian Currency.

The Indians have turned greedy beyond redemption. Once there was a Midas touch – a touch which turned anything and everything to gold. Now we have Greed touch – a touch which rot anything and everything we touch. We’re once in the line of budding superpowers, and we still are in the line only. 63 years have been passed since independence and we are still nascent. The only thing that grew is greed and population and corruption and chaos all around. M.K. Gandhi stirred the whole country for a purpose that is long lost and forgotten. Even at that time a lot fought for him because he inspired them towards a common goal. Today’s Gandhi attracts everybody but inspire none. We all can fought for the Gandhi even today but our motive is different today. We’ll fight for him to own him. We have an egocentric goal now.

I hear every now and then that “Gandhiji mein bahut taquat hai” meaning Gandhiji has a lot of power. But in reality this is the power of Greed and not Gandhi. All we are taught is world is moving fast and if you don’t keep abreast you’ll be left behind but nobody taught to carry the values along while travelling. The result is rotten core and glittering appearance.

8-10 years back talks were doing the round that Indians have the largest repository of young people. India was looked upon by many as an emerging leader but alas we sank our ship on our own. That young generation is aging and soon we’ll be the largest repository of old people then we’ll have nothing. We are feeding on our own people. We are acting like beasts. Our single aim is to prove the Darwins thoery of “Survival of the Fittest” which I suppose was raw and very basic instinct. But homo sapiens grew above that raw instinct and formed society and now that instinct is growing back again. Soon there will be no India left to be proud of. All there will be barren land, full of blood and gore and none of the two Gandhi will be able to help us then.


2010 year endToday is the last day of the month and also the last day of the year 2010. Going by my commitment of writing at least one article a month, I’d only 2 hours left and I was thinking about what to write? Although I had a lot of topics flashing through my head but I just didn’t got the time to pen them down and publish. Who me? 

In a nutshell, I have some good news that I embark to new heights in my career. But alas that I had to leave Mumbai Crying face which in true sense had became “Mumbai Meri Jaan” meaning Mumbai My Life, but again the good part is I have moved back to Delhi to my family. It is a great feeling. I’ve made some good friends in Mumbai which I’ll cherish till I perish. Hot smile Now after a tribute to my stay in Mumbai, coming to the main topic – The New Year Celebration.

The face of new age is so different from yesterdays. Our ways of celebration has undergone a technological and emotional shift to come to its present form. Earlier our mode of celebration was close knit family gathering, having special dinner menu prepared and served with love by our beloved Moms. After having a sumptuous meal, we all used to get a comfortable and cosy place and waited anxiously for the special New Year program to start on Door Darshan, our special moment to watch so many Actors and Actresses perform and talk and waited for them to wish us a Happy New Year. With the advent of Cable TV, Door Darshan lost its shine but our basic instinct remained the same until recent years.

In last few years, the economy and technology has taken such a giant leap that our ways of living has changed drastically. Close knit family means Nuclear family. People have less time and much lesser physical presence now. Vampire bat 

Why I am saying this? The biggest reason can be found in my article. Here I am writing articles about New Year rather than celebrating. It is not because I don’t want to but I am too absorbed now with my own life and worries that I don’t care for yet another year. I didn’t had goals earlier so a coming year was new for me. Now my New Year is shifted to Fiscal Year –> April – March. Smile with tongue out December and January doesn’t offer me much. How come it’s a New Year? My Performance review is always set till March. Freezing I now take my resolution after my appraisal is announced and not in January.

But even while I write this, I want all the free spirits to bestow their blessings upon the world and ask you to celebrate each day with same valour and vigour and be good and do good and last but not the least please don’t forget to wish your dear ones your good wishes and take blessing from your elder and give love to your youngers.

Have a Happy New Year and a prosperous life ahead.Left hugRight hug


2010-11-13 22.39.00A backpack (also called rucksack, knapsack, packsack, pack, or Bergan) is, in its simplest form, a cloth sack carried on one’s back and secured with two straps that go over the shoulders. (Yes, there are exceptions. Agreed.) Snail

So what brings me to the backpack today? It is my backpack. I realized today that it has become a part of me. I carry it all the time. It is one identity mark for me.

It is a multi utilitarian chest which makes me complete. It has all the sundry items whose absence doesn’t stop you from living but their presence does makes your life a better journey.

In my backpack, you’ll find at least two books. The books serve a good time travel on the busy roads of Mumbai where time is the new measurement unit of distance. (If you’ll ask someone how far a place is, probability is he will give the answer in the number of hours it will take to reach there rather than number of kilometres you need to travel.) Reading a book is in itself an exercise to sharpen your creative thinking skills, whilst you broaden your horizons. It nourishes the intellect and expands your imagination and knowledge. So it serves a dual purpose of time travel and food for mind and soul.School

Contents of my backpack

Then I carry a folder having the copy of all important documents like passport, license, etc. This comes in handy many times. Charger and earphone are next important thing that are just too difficult to ignore. With my battery guzzling Galaxy S, I need to be prepared for any instance of low battery signal. So instead of comminating myself, I prefer to carry the charger at all times. Earphone ensures an equally, round the clock availability of entertainment without disturbing the entire crowd. Then there are other sundry items like deodorant, a poly-ethylene, pen, tickets, a wrapping paper, glue etc. which can just come in handy at times.

On a regular weekend, I also carry a Short and Tees, for who knows after the hard hitting parties I may or may not head for my home. Winking smile

The objective here is not the items themselves but the subtle role they play now. I load my backpack with these items and my backpack takes the load off my life. A flight of imagination can take me anywhere and so am prepared for a harlequin journey anytime.

Sleepy smile I guess now its time to close this backpack and go to sleep because in the morning I have another engagement to attend to and my backpack is packed.

One of my friend, who is an assistant director in Sony Entertainment Television send me an article written by him which touched my soul for two reasons. First it is a lesson about communal harmony where the act displays the love and respect for each other irrespective of religion and second the place mentioned is  near my hometown.

The sole purpose of my posting this article here is to show the world and also some selected anti-social goons that whatever they are promoting is not the real story. This is what binds India and Indians to its root. I want this article to serve as an awareness  to those who are misguided and misleaded.

Although the article is about the industry but I focused on the lesson that it teaches subtly.

Jai Hind.

शेराज अहमद, अनारू, जुबैर, इसरार अहमद और ऐसे ही करीब 100 से भी ज्यादा लोग हर सुबह हिंदू धर्म के सबसे पवित्र धागे को अपनी मेहनत से तैयार करते हैं। यह दिलचस्प है कि जो धागा हिंदू धर्म में सबसे पवित्र व अहम माना जाता है उसे मुस्लिम धर्म के 22 घरों के करीब सौ से भी ज्यादा लोग तैयार करते हैं। जी हां हिंदू धर्म में सबसे पवित्र माने जाने वाले कलावा, कलाई नारा या रक्षा सूत्र को पूरे विश्व में एक ही जगह बनाया जाता है। संगम की पावन धरती प्रयाग (इलाहाबाद) से करीब 40 किलोमीटर की दूरी पर लालगोपाल गंज कस्बा पड़ता है और यही पर स्थित दो गांव अल्हादगंज व खंजानपुर में दिन रात कलावे (रक्षा सूत्र) बनाने का काम किया जाता है। नवरात्रि के समय कलावे की मांग बढ़ जाने पर यहां पर दिन रात कलावे व माता की चुनरी बनाने का काम तेजी से होते देखा जा सकता है। अल्हादपुर गांव के नफीस अहमद बताते हैं कि उनके दादा-परदादा इस काम को करते आ रहे हैं। यह काम पुश्तैनी हो चुका है नफीस अपने बच्चों को भी इस काम में लगा चुके हैं। नफीस ने बताया कि करीब 100 साल से यह काम पूरी दुनिया में सिर्फ इन्हीं दो गावों में किया जाता है। मुस्लिमों में रंगरेज बिरदारी ही इस काम को अंजाम दिया करती है। नफीस के यहां कलावे बनाने का काम प्रत्येक सुबह तीन बजे से शुरू हो जाता है। कच्चा माल भिवंडी से आता है जिसे लाछा या नारा कहा जाता है। यह 40 से 45 रुपए प्रति किलो के हिसाब से मिलता है। इसको घर की महिलाएं धागे के रूप में कई लच्छों में बांटतीं हैं। इसके बाद काम होता है रंगाई का। लाल व पीले रंगों को क्रमश: कांगो लाल व खपाची पीला कहा जाता है जिसे कानपुर से मंगाया जाता है। लच्छों को गर्म रंगीन पानी में डालकर सुखाने के लिए रखा जाता है। और फिर तैयार होता है रक्षासूत्र। रोजा रह रहे अफरोज रंगरेज ने बताया कि हर दिन उसे 40 से 60 किलो लच्छे को रंगना होता है। बीस किलो को एक नग या ताव कहा जाता है। एक ताव को तैयार करने के लिए यहां के लोगों को सत्तर रुपए मिलते हैं। प्रतिदिन 100 से ज्यादा लोग रंगाई के इस काम को करते हैं और तैयार करते हैं 20 से 30 कुंतल कलावा। मार्केट में कलावे की सप्लाई 55 से 60 रुपए प्रति किलो के रेट पर की जाती है। 15 रुपए के इस मुनाफे में 22 घर व सैकड़ों लोग अपनी जीविका चलाते हैं। 19 साल के रहमान कहते हैं कि जिसने जितना काम किया होता है उसे उसकी मजदूरी का पैसा तुरंत मिल जाता है। इसी गांव में आदिल सलाम उर्फ दलाल चुनरी बनाने का काम करते हैं। चुनरी के लिए कच्चा माल अहमदाबाद से लाया जाता है जिसमें नमकी कलर का प्रयोग कर विभिन्न डिजाइन देने के बाद चुनरी तैयार की जाती है। छोटी और बड़ी साइज की चुनरी तैयार करने के बाद इनमें इंटरलाकिंग का काम गांव की महिलाएं घरों में करतीं हैं। 100 चुनरी की इंटरलाकिंग 20 से 25 रुपए के रेट पर की जाती है। रेहाना खातून 70 साल की हैं और सुबह घर के काम काज से खाली होकर दिन भर इसी काम में मशगूल हो जातीं हैं। रेहाना ने बताया कि नवरात्रि और मेले में चुनरी की मांग तेज हो जाती है। रेहाना के शौहर का इंतकाल 20 साल पहले हो गया था और तब से वह अपनी दो बेटियों और तीन बेटों की पढ़ाई का खर्चा इसी से निकाल रही हैं। इस धंधे में मंदी का कोई असर पड़ने के बारे में आदिल उर्फ दलाल ने बताया कि पूरी दुनिया में वास्तविक कलावा लालगोपालगंज में ही बनाया जाता है और इसी कारण भारत ही नहीं बल्कि मलेशिया, नेपाल, ब्रिटेन, अमेरिका, लंदन पाकिस्तान जसे देशों में भी इसकी सप्लाई की जाती है। भारत के सभी प्रसिद्ध मंदिरों में कई महीनों पहले से ही आर्डर देकर थोक के भाव कलावे व चुनरी बनवाई जातीं हैं। मैहर, मुंबा देवी, विंध्याचल, वैष्णो देवी, कालका जी, ज्वाला देवी, बालाजी मंदिर, सिद्धीविनायक जसे तमाम बड़े धार्मिक स्थलों के आर्डर महीनों पहले यहां पर आ चुके हैं। आदिल बताते हैं कि वर्तमान में आदमी कम पड़ जाते हैं लेकिन सप्लाई पूरी नहीं हो पाती है। आज के दिन में अल्हादपुर व खंजान पुर के लोगों के पास इतना काम है कि वह 24 घंटे भी काम करें तो भी डिमांड पूरी नहीं की जा सकती है। प्राइवेट कंपनियों के कलाई नारा बनाने के काम में कूदने पर यहां का रंगरेज समुदाय खासा नाखुश है इनका मानना है कि सरकार को इस काम को बढ़ावा देना चाहिए। सरकार की ओर से एक रुपए की भी मदद न मिलने से गांव वाले खासे नाराज हैं। लेकिन काम इतना ज्यादा है कि किसी को गिला तक करने की फुर्सत नहीं हैं। बिजली समय पर आ जाती है तो चुनरी में डिजाइन व प्रेसिंग का काम समय पर हो जाता है वरना रंगाई व धुलाई के लिए कुएं व हैंडपंप के पानी पर ही आश्रित रहना पड़ता है। गांव की दो मस्जिदों के इर्द-गिर्द रहने वाले इन लोगों की दिनचर्या पांचो वक्त नमाज अदा कर इस धागे में रंग घोलने तक सीमित है। इनके बच्चे इन धागों व चुनरियों को सुखाने के लिए खेतों में ले जाया करते हैं। खेतों में फैले रंगीन धागे व चुनरयिां सुबह के वक्त किसी मनोरम दृश्य से कम नहीं होते हैं। 12 साल के सादिक उर्फ सोनू को इन लाल रंग के धागों से खेलना अच्छा लगता है, उसे नहीं पता कि इन धागों की अहमियत क्या है, वह तो बस इतना जानता है कि उसके अब्बू व भाईजान सुबह तीन बजे से ही इन धागों व चुनरियों को रंगने में व्यस्त थे और अब उसकी जिम्मेदारी है कि जब ये सूख जाएं तो करीने से इनको घर ले जाकर अम्मी को देना है। गांव के ही एक मस्जिद के मौलवी अश्फाक अहमद ने नमाज अदा करने के बाद बातचीत में बताया कि यह एकता का जीता जागता प्रमाण ही है कि हिंदू धर्म के सबसे बुनियादी व अनिवार्य वस्तु से मुस्लिम समुदाय का एक हिस्सा अपनी रोजी रोटी चला रहा है। सरकार को इस छोटे लेकिन महत्वपूर्ण व्यवसाय को व्यवस्थित करने के लिए कुछ मदद करनी चाहिए।

* This article may not be suited for all age groups. Reader’s discretion is advised.

An interesting article I found upon men and their psyche.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Dr. Louann Brizendine. She is a member of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and the National Board of Medical Examiners, and a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. She is founder and director of the Women’s Mood and Hormone Clinic. She wrote “The Female Brain” and, just released, “The Male Brain”.

Although women the world over have been doing it for centuries, we can’t really blame a guy for being a guy. And this is especially true now that we know that the male and female brains have some profound differences.

Our brains are mostly alike. We are the same species, after all. But the differences can sometimes make it seem like we are worlds apart.

The “defend your turf” area — dorsal premammillary nucleus — is larger in the male brain and contains special circuits to detect territorial challenges by other males. And his amygdala, the alarm system for threats, fear and danger is also larger in men. These brain differences make men more alert than women to potential turf threats.

Meanwhile, the “I feel what you feel” part of the brain — mirror-neuron system — is larger and more active in the female brain. So women can naturally get in sync with others’ emotions by reading facial expressions, interpreting tone of voice and other nonverbal emotional cues.

Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only that, but beginning in their teens, they produce 200 to 250 percent more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence.

If testosterone were beer, a 9-year-old boy would be getting the equivalent of a cup a day. But a 15-year-old would be getting the equivalent of nearly two gallons a day. This fuels their sexual engines and makes it impossible for them to stop thinking about female body parts and sex.

And so begins the ‘Man Trance’

All that testosterone drives the “Man Trance”– that glazed-eye look a man gets when he sees breasts. As a woman who was among the ranks of the early feminists, I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from entering this trance. But the truth is, they can’t. Their visual brain circuits are always on the lookout for fertile mates. Whether or not they intend to pursue a visual enticement, they have to check out the goods.

To a man, this is the most natural response in the world, so he’s dismayed by how betrayed his wife or girlfriend feels when she sees him eyeing another woman. Men look at attractive women the way we look at pretty butterflies. They catch the male brain’s attention for a second, but then they flit out of his mind. Five minutes later, while we’re still fuming, he’s deciding whether he wants ribs or chicken for dinner. He asks us, “What’s wrong?” We say, “Nothing.” He shrugs and turns on the TV. We smolder and fear that he’ll leave us for another woman.

Not surprisingly, the different objectives that men and women have in mating games put us on opposing teams — at least at first. The female brain is driven to seek security and reliability in a potential mate before she has sex. But a male brain is fueled to mate and mate again. Until, that is, he mates for life.

Despite stereotypes to the contrary, the male brain can fall in love just as hard and fast as the female brain, and maybe more so. When he meets and sets his sights on capturing “the one,” mating with her becomes his prime directive. And when he succeeds, his brain makes an indelible imprint of her. Lust and love collide and he’s hooked.

The ‘Doting Daddy Brain’

A man in hot pursuit of a mate doesn’t even remotely resemble a devoted, doting daddy. But that’s what his future holds. When his mate becomes pregnant, she’ll emit pheromones that will waft into his nostrils, stimulating his brain to make more of a hormone called prolactin. Her pheromones will also cause his testosterone production to drop by 30 percent.

These hormonal changes make him more likely to help with the baby. They also change his perceptual circuitry, increasing his ability to hear a baby cry, something many men can’t do very well before their wives are pregnant.

And a word to the wise for all the young mothers who are reluctant to let your husbands hold and care for your newborn. The more hands-on care a father gives his infant, the more his brain aligns with the role of fatherhood. So, hand over the baby.

His emotions run deep

Although men have earned the reputation for being more stoic than women, they actually have stronger emotional reactions than we do. They just don’t show it very often.

Studies of men’s faces show that the male brain’s initial emotional reaction can be stronger than the female brain’s. But within 2.5 seconds, he changes his face to hide the emotion, or even reverse it. The repeated practice of hiding his emotions gives men the classic poker face.

It’s his poker face and his analytical response to personal problems that can put him in the doghouse. She’s crying as she talks about what’s wrong with the relationship, and instead of hugging her, his mind is racing to find a way to resolve the problem as soon as possible. With practice and because of the way their brains are wired, men use their analytical brain structures, not their emotional ones, to find a solution.

They enjoy this advantage, but women often take affront to it. When you’re telling your husband your problem and he tries to solve it instead of hearing you out, you may think he’s being insensitive. But that’s not what’s going on in his brain. He’s working to solve the problem so he can relieve your pain as quickly as possible. Not because he doesn’t care or doesn’t want to listen, but because he loves you.

‘Lovable Grandpas’ and ‘Grumpy Old Men’

As men age, the male brain hormones change and the male brain and body goes into the stage of life called andropause. The king of male hormones — testosterone — goes down and the queen of female hormones — estrogen — goes up. Whether Grandpa is your kids’ hero or the grouch they hate to visit depends a lot on how he handles these hormonal changes. For example, if his testosterone levels drop to an abnormally low level, he can feel tired, irritable and even depressed. Some men in this condition seek hormone replacement therapy and others find relief in exercise, more frequent sex, and spending more time with other people.

Whether Grandpa is your kids’ hero or the grouch they hate to visit depends a lot on how he handles these hormonal changes. The grandpa that kids can’t wait to see is the one who’s feeling the effects of the hormone oxytocin, often called the “cuddle hormone.” He’s fun and playful and likes to hear what his grandchildren have to say. He’s much more patient with your children than he was with you, when you were growing up. The love circuits of the mature male brain can be hijacked by his grandkids, even more than they were by his own children.

The ‘Lonely Hearts Club’

Not only is the mature male brain more receptive to closer bonds, but it’s also more sensitive to loneliness. Nobody thrives when they’re lonely, but it seems to take a major toll on older men. Sixty percent of divorces in couples over the age of 50 are initiated by women, leaving their husbands shell-shocked and devastated.

Once his wife leaves, unless he makes a point of socializing more with other people, his brain stops getting the social workout it needs to make him feel good about himself. If he becomes a loner, his social-approval circuits don’t get activated. In brain scan studies of older males researchers have found that the brain’s pleasure and reward areas, the VTA and the NAc, remain more active in men who are social. So don’t begrudge the divorcee or the new widower some socializing and seeking female companionship.

The bottom line

The human brain is the best learning machine on the planet and human beings are capable of making major changes in our lives. But there are some things that the male brain and female brain are not likely to change anytime soon. And it makes more sense to deal with these brain realities, than to argue with them or ignoring them.

The best advice I have for women is make peace with the male brain. Let men be men.

Courtesy: CNN

Something new is doing the rounds in the British intelligence agencies. They have reportedly monitored terrorist communications bragging that women suicide bombers have already undergone surgery to hide explosive bombs in their breast implants.

So guys, now when you drool over some hot girl looks and assets, beware she might be more hazardous to you than ever.

Let’s go through a little bit of detail.

You could certainly put a liquid of any kind in a saline device, and a gel implant theoretically could be opened and replaced with a different type of gel” said Maryland plastic surgeon Dr. Craig Person. It might also be difficult to detect.

Terrorism experts agree.

The federal government has not put into place any system for detecting explosives at passengers’ screening checkpoints” said Larry Johnson, the Managing Director of Berg Associates.

The flip side is more encouraging.

What we’ve seen is, at least, the al Qaeda explosives competence, while they are visionary with their devices, they’re not terribly competent with actually being able to get something to detonate” Johnson said.

I felt quite terrified when I read this. Now I’ll be more vigilant while interacting with girls. Who knows what lies beneath the veneer?

(Sorry Girls, No offense to the other side. Just Kidding.)

While this article is written on a lighter note, the underlying impression is very much serious and the intelligence agencies should get geared up before the outbreak (if happens)

I checked my mail today and got this super duper Ad for all the technical guys who are frustrated, dim, seething over their future in the industry.

Certainly, it was funny and was a mockery of ads which you can found displayed on local trains wherein some baba aur tantrik claiming to solve plethora of problems one is facing. They even define the timeline of 11-12 hours for guaranteed results.

Jokes apart, its implications are very serious if one considers the result they bore. I only wonder what makes people fall prey to such tantrums. In the present world, full of technology and information how can these frauds be accepted and given credibility.

If a person, who is illiterate and superstitious, goes to such places for solutions, I can for once accept the justification of his deed due to his ignorance. But what about educated class strata? How can you improve your conditions by wearing some spell-casted stone ring. I frequently hear news doing the rounds about how people comes under the influence of these bloody anti-social hypocrite TANTRIKs and BABAs and does crimes like guillotining young children, molesting and raping their own children and a number of other such disgusting  and ignominious tasks to gain power and fame.

In India only, several cases have been reported. I can remember one case where a person used to decapitate young children and drink their blood. Other case happened in Mumbai only, where a father was raping his daughter and the wife had always known this and was on the side his husband. And the common string that connected these two crimes was the influence of TANTRIKs. What they wanted to achieve with this horrendous act is beyond my ability to comprehend but it doesn’t need rocket science to understand that killing is not a solution to your problems and no sane person will indulge in such demeaning task.

I am pointing towards the mutation of human psyche, the rotting of pneuma to such an extent that provokes human towards cannibalism without scintilla of remorse. The topic in discussion is just a single facet of such mutation. I’m not divulging into other such heinous aspect as that will unnecessary diverge me from my point.

Can I say that even after years of civilization, our DNA still has the nomadic cannibalism dovetailed to it? Is it that our social rules have polished us only superficially? Inside our body, still rest those ogre instincts that come out due to the seemingly inescapable moral or emotional burden, that of guilt or responsibility.

It took centuries for us to evolve in our present form which to my dismay I find no less rustic than our ancestors. I hope if only such estrange souls can ever find the true divine light and be enlightened.

I hope………